Our intuition is completely natural, yet many people doubt they have it, or doubt they can trust and rely upon it. It can be hard for some to let go of logic, or to distinguish emotions from intuition.
Others have had clear intuitive flashes but fear deepening these abilities– they’re afraid of seeing dead people, tragic events or other “negative things”. It all seems like too much responsibility or too overwhelming.
While all these are common, the #1 block to intuition may surprise you. It is… our intuition itself. Particularly, our intuition when it is not directed or managed consciously.
What? You may ask. How could this be?
Well, have you ever heard the phrase, “A fish can’t tell you anything about water”?
If someone is super-intuitive, that means they are picking up all kinds of stuff all the time. For example, I worked with a woman who was separated from her husband. She wanted to “tune in” to what was going on with him and couldn’t get a clear read.
This was the problem: even though they were physically apart, hers and her husband’s energy were so enmeshed that she was already psychically “tuned in.” But, rather than seeing his reality clearly, she was picking up his depression and confusion and trying to process it as if it were hers.
This left her head in a cloud; she was constantly churning in emotions. So I worked with her on finding her own energetic space so she could find her own truth and feel her own feelings. Only from there can we truly see another.
I remember leading a group class in meeting their healing guides. Mid-way through the meditation, I asked everyone to raise their hands if they saw a guide. All but one woman raised their hands.
When I looked at the woman who didn’t raise her hand, I saw at least 8 or 10 spirits around her! From my perspective, she was the most natural medium in the room. I guess she was so used to sharing her space that nothing seemed to change when she brought in her healing guide.
I’ve had a similar experience teaching “psychic protection” techniques. In class, we role-played this by having one person “vent” about something while the listener noticed how she felt. Then, I had the listener imagine a rose in-between her and the speaker, forming a friendly boundary before the speaker “vented” again. Most times, the listener reported being more present, more aware of what was spoken, and more compassionate with the rose than without.
Hmmm. So my conclusion here is that when we “take on” another’s energy and merge with it, we actually lose perspective and awareness. Unconscious intuition means we cannot tell the difference between them and us. Before using the protection rose, half of my students just wanted to run away when someone vented in their direction!
Of course, this plays into our intuition. If someone is a psychic sponge all day long, how would they distinguish true guidance when it came their way?
I remember being a poet and a songwriter and waking up with words in my head. Were these voices my guides? Not really. They were spirits looking for a voice. Musicians and poets in-between lifetimes. Lost souls mostly.
Back then, if I wanted some real guidance, I pulled out my journal and wrote a letter, starting with “Dear God…” or “To the angels and guides here to support my Divine greatest good…” Then I’d write the answer back. That worked! I still have some of those journals and the wisdom I received then still rings true.
I remember when I was in “psychic school”. My friends thought it was glamorous. I felt like I was in therapy. My first step to trusting my intuition was unravelling all the emotions, problems and desires I had taken on from others. I had been letting them guide my life without realizing it, and so when I tried to “tune in” to anything it was like there were 10 competing voices giving me answers.
This is where it’s easy to go to logic, which feels “safer.” This is why most people don’t trust.
And for the record, your emotions are not in conflict with your intuition. Other people’s emotions are. Your own emotions are here to give you a message; they are here to serve and protect you. That doesn’t mean to act them out irresponsibly, it just means there are valid messages in them.
When I learned to distinguish and clear out everything that was not mine, and to feel my own feelings and desires and truth, two amazing things happened. One, I started to really enjoy my life. Two, my intuition got stronger and became more useful!
Running my own energy through my body, I could easily distinguish when something else came in. It became like sitting in a yellow room and noticing instantly if someone rolled a blue ball into the room. Or if someone walked in wearing a red shirt.
When I teach meditation and psychic development classes, I teach students first to find their center and their neutrality. This alone clears up most blocks to intuition!
You see, everyone has intuition. It just requires turning off all the channels you don’t want to “watch,” connecting to your own center, and then turning “on” the channel you choose.
Each channel could represent a person, the answer to a specific question, or an area of your life. It’s fun, and gets even better with practice!