A client asked me why, ever since she’d gotten engaged, she’d been sick. While she was excited for her future, she also felt overwhelmed and was even contemplating pushing back her wedding date.
I saw babies in her future, but I also saw a TON of energy from her ancestors and lineage. Suddenly, they had all descended with the best information they had for her about how to be a woman.
“You have to be passive and follow the man or you’ll die. But if you do, you’ll die,” they implored. They meant to help based on what they’d experienced in their lives, but times have changed! All those heavy mixed messages would be enough to make anyone sick!!
In helping this woman with her health, I moved those energies out to make space for her present-time truth, but I also saw something very interesting. Her body wanted the traditional foods that her ancestors ate. This was a way to honor and make peace with them, easing her way and making space for her to create her own life.
Most of us have our version of this. It’s easy to get stuck when our early memories of love and support also include programming that doesn’t serve our present-time life. As much as we want to move forward, our genetics and subconscious like to scream, “No, don’t, you’ll die! You’ll be alone!”
So, once these patterns surface, many people on the path of personal growth want to push their ancestors away and reject them. But there is the saying, “What you resist, persists,” and truly the best way to find your space is to give others space, too. For example, one of my clients wanted nothing to do with her addict-mother, but then chose to find just one thing she appreciated about her and began to feel much at peace with their relationship.
While the ego may not want to admit it, it takes way more effort to complain and blame others than it does to just change ourselves. And when we do, it gives everyone else permission to, also!
Besides, family patterns are NEVER about one person or one relationship. In helping one of my clients with his mother, I tuned in to her energy and realized she was overshadowed by her father, who was overshadowed by his mother, and this went on and on down the line (for many of them, long after death). Everyone was suffering! No one was really holding their own power. No one knew any different.
It would be exhausting to “fix” everyone one-by-one, but by simply changing ourselves we can break the chain. We CAN in addition pray for the whole line to be forgiven and forgive everyone, including themselves, and that they each return to the peace of their true selves.
The more we honor our lineage, the more they loosen any fearful holding and the more we can create free. For now is surely the time to do so! Bless us all!
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