We all have an amazing power to create the experiences we choose. One of our greatest tools is our word.
And after all the psychic techniques I have learned and practiced, I still feel that my word is my most powerful manifesting tool. I have had tremendous success specifically writing, reading, recording and listening to affirmations in my own voice. When I align my words, I align my mind, and I remember I am creating my experience.
Of course, most of us speak and even write (via email and text) quite a bit everyday. So, it’s easy to “slip up” and speak our way to more problems. I often hear people use disempowering phrases like:
- “I can’t”
- “I don’t have time”
- “There’s no money for…”
- “I want/ I don’t want…”
- “I hope…”
- “You always/ you never”
- “S/he did ___ to me”
Do these phrases sound familiar? Here are a few thoughts on alternate wording…
Usually when we say, “can’t”, we actually have a choice. In that case, try “I prefer” and share what you choose rather than the thing you “can’t” do.
As for time, we all have 24 hours in a day. If something is a priority we usually find time, so again, consider owning your choices of how you allocate your time. Since I had a baby I still meditate every day, but I do not keep my house or toenails looking perfect, for example. 🙂
Money is similar. Most of the time, we can find or create money for the things we value most. And if you’d like to change your situation when money seems scarce, then find a way to speak that invites money in, or at least does not push it away. You might say “I’m saving my money for food,” or “A new car is not in my budget right now”.
“I want” is interesting. It sounds good, but it actually externalizes the thing we “want” and keeps it separate from ourselves. I prefer “I desire” or even “I’m in the process of creating…”
Our subconscious only says, “Yes.” So by speaking “I don’t want headaches at work, we actually magnetize headaches at work (even literally!) If in doubt about what to say, we can always be quiet.
“I hope” is “nice,” but it’s weak and assumes power is outside us. I usually use “I intend.”
Has anyone ever said to you, “you always” or “you never”? Those statements don’t feel good, and they are rarely true. When we say them to others, we limit both their creative potential and our potential to experience fulfillment. If we usually or rarely experience a certain thing and we need to express it, then state the simple facts: “You have been late every day this week.”
“S/he did ___ to me.” It’s convenient to blame others, but it keeps you stuck! While we cannot control or predict life, it is so healing to realize there’s a lesson in every experience and that on some level, for some reason, we choose everything in our lives.
Other thoughts on the power of our word…
Another way we can sabotage ourselves is by continuing to repeat stories of past (or even current) problems or fears. While sometimes we need to “vent” and get things off our chests, we usually only need to do this once per situation. The beauty of acknowledging what we do not want is that it creates clarity and fuel for change. But continuing to complain without making changes simply energizes our problems and makes them bigger. And have you ever noticed it just doesn’t feel good?
Once, I found myself repeating an old story about one of my “problems” to some friends. I suddenly had an “A-ha”. Assuming they bought my story (and some friends see right through us, thankfully :)), now I not only had my original problem, I also had my friends’ mental broadcast amplifying the story. Yikes! Everyone is psychic, which includes both sending and receiving energy. I certainly didn’t need any more people picturing problems or feeling bad for me.
So from that day on, I have become more conscious about what I share with people. I generally ask myself if what I am about to share will enhance the life of those listening and myself. If not, I redirect my energy.
Consciously, we don’t want the problems, but subconsciously, we are usually addicted to having them. When I see this in a client I usually ask what they are getting out of having the problem. An example would be someone who desires love but subconsciously feels safer avoiding the vulnerability of human intimacy.
I had another “a-ha” once when I found myself complaining on a group conference call. Even though I couldn’t see anyone’s face, I could feel the energy drop as I complained. I have also noticed the opposite… that when I speak positively, people are drawn to me. Think that might help me manifest? I’m sure it does!
As a former poet and singer/ songwriter, I stopped singing most of my songs because they were me venting in order to heal myself. It worked, but didn’t need to be repeated in café after café, year after year.
On the other hand, I once was hiking in Yellowstone and had read to make lots of noise to keep the bears away. Alone on the trail, I decided not only to make noise, but also to raise my vibration by yelling “Love, Ecstasy, Bliss” over and over throughout my hike. When I finished I was higher than a kite! Needless to say, no bears got me. And on that note, certain words tend to feel good, so find what those are for you and say them more.
I intend this article offers you tools to increase your happiness and scare away the bears of life. 🙂