My daughter, not quite 3, is a manifesting master. She already has her own prayer beads, and loves to sit on the couch next to her Dad, chanting “Nam Yo Ho Renge Kyo,” a chant he does daily to send healing to those in need, and to manifest his goals.
On our way back from the airport after our vacation a couple months ago, Arthur and I were talking about stopping by our favorite juice and smoothie bar. All of a sudden we hear her in the backseat:
“Nama Renge Ko, I like blue shake,” she chanted over and over. We burst into laughter. She was determined to have her blueberry shake! How could we resist that one?
Most days now, she wakes up and puts her swimsuit on. “I’m going swimming today,” she declares. Never mind, “Mama, Papa, please can we go swimming?” She just goes for it!
And guess what? Most days we go swimming.
My daughter has already figured out something I’ve heard from countless authors and coaches: Decisive people are more successful. And if you want something, act “as if!”
Wow. It took me decades to learn that one. I am still learning, and I’m so grateful she reminds me.
Decide- Align- Allow— is my motto now.
Decide— Get really clear inside! That’s usually easy when we’re kids. By the time we’re adults, it often takes some work to filter through all of our programming and past experiences to figure out what we want. It’s work worth doing.
Align— Act “as if”! Pretend you already have what you’re asking for and become the person who has that. My daughter did that by putting on her bathing suit. What’s one simple action you would take know if you knew your desire was going to happen?
Allow— open up and get outside your comfort zone. One success coach I know says that 99% of what we’re looking for is outside our radar. This, too, is easy when we’re kids, because we haven’t established our “comfort zone” so much yet. Consider that your comfort zone may be bigger than you think.
When I can’t seem to manifest and I think I’m doing all the “right things,” I consider if I am really deciding, aligning and allowing. And when I took back at my past “failures” or wishy-washy results, I see some themes:
I “failed” when I placed the decision outside myself, or when I let my fears run the show. I “failed” when I forgot to open up to new possibilities. I “won” each time I assumed my desire was already met, and then allowed it in.
There is an art to this, and it’s not always easy.
I remember how little sleep I got the month before I put everything in storage and traveled for 2 1/2 months, on a vision that I’d meet my partner at a raw foods retreat in Arizona. Guess what? I met him at a raw foods retreat in Arizona, but we didn’t initially recognize each other.
Talk about trust! It took us a year to get together, and along the way I moved to New Mexico, dated someone else, and re-created my whole life. Then, he showed up again at my house in Santa Fe when a friend invited him to my birthday party. That whole year, I was deeply focused on the dance of creating and allowing, and when I look back it was one of the most profound times of my life so far.
On the other hand, in my 20’s I remember feeling a powerful call to move to a spiritual community in Scotland. I went to visit, loved it and wanted to stay. I didn’t. I went home (which at that time, was Colorado), and convinced myself to wait 6 months to go back because I had these kids’ creativity classes to teach, a lease and other things. I think I even made a checkup with the dentist more important.
As soon as I got back to the states, my car overheated and my engine died. My water heater broke in the middle of February and after several days of cold showers, I found out that no one had signed up for the classes I was supposed to be teaching. I got the message and moved to Scotland the next month. That, too, was an amazing time of spiritual awakening, and looking back, it was the perfect time for me to be there.
I’m telling you this, though, because it doesn’t have to be hard. You don’t need your engine to blow up if you’d only listen and trust. When my engine blew up, I was in bliss, because I “got it.” But a spiritual re-route doesn’t have to be so expensive!
So many people I talk with DO know what they want. They DO get guidance. And then they talk themselves out of it, coming up with all sorts of reasons why they “can’t”. They live divided, because they’ve already admitted they want X, Y or Z but decide they “have” to do “A” instead. This can strain our health. It can cause us to look back after years of this and say, “What happened to my life?”
I have learned to stop doing this to myself. I learned to stop saying “I want it but I can’t have it because ____.” I learned to stop processing about the thing I think is stopping me. That goes nowhere useful!
Instead, I admit my desires, align my words and actions, and then let what I’m asking for show up in my life. Sometimes I get immediate clarity and see that it’s easier than I think. Other times, it takes an uncomfortable journey into the unknown.
But it works. Try it and let me know below how life shifts for you!
P.S. Does this intrigue you? If so, I would love to meet you live! This fall, I’m offering the “Finding Your Life of Enchantment” Retreat, a journey into awakening your power to create your life. We have 1 room left and if you’re feeling called, let’s talk!