At my workshops and private sessions, there is one question I get more than any other: “How can I protect myself from ‘negative’ energy?” As a sensitive person and healer, I tend to attract these questions because I have been there myself.
And I can tell you the answer, but it’s probably not what you want to hear. If only there were foolproof techniques, pills to take, or even someone you could pay to take care of it for you, wouldn’t that be nice?
I can teach you techniques to practice and of course you can have someone help you from time to time. But no amount of this will help if for some reason, you are in agreement to the “negative energy” being there. What I can help you with is to find out why it’s there, and to reset your energy for what you’d like today.
Most of you reading this are sensitive to energy. You may know well how icky it feels to carry around other peoples’ pain, to feel possessed by dark forces, or just to feel like you’re not yourself.
No matter how destructive it feels, usually when we allow other people’s energy in it’s because at the time we thought it would help us on some level. I really believe that deep down we are always motivated towards love, well-being and growth, however convoluted our path may look from the outside.
For example, you may have felt scared as a child and so brought in a spirit guide to act as a “psychic bodyguard”. Even though you don’t need him anymore, he never got released and so continues to push people away from you.
I have met people who suffered tremendously because they thought they were “cursed” or psychically attacked. Interestingly, those people have usually felt that the “curses” came from either family members or religious/ spiritual leaders (or in some cases both).
While obviously hurtful, these situations make sense. Who do we tend to look to most for love? Who do we most expect to take care of us?
Usually we have more expectations of, and so give more of our power away to these figures than we do to strangers on the street. That little child in us desperate for Mommy, Daddy or God is just not willing to let go of whatever we think will get their attention, however painful. While motivated by love, we get pain… which only increases our pain!
In cases like this, I have never seen the client resolve the issue through psychic protection techniques alone. But, by looking deeper and clearing their motivation for allowing it, true and lasting healing is possible.
Maybe you don’t feel “cursed,” only spaced out after driving in rush hour traffic, or drained when listening to your friend’s problems, or hyper-reactive to your lover’s judgments. No matter what level of psychic protection you feel you need, my remedy is the same.
Try having more:
- Be the person you want to be, in whatever way you can, now. Dare to be a leader, to be the first to change the dynamic.
- Ask yourself “Why am I allowing my space to be invaded?” Be open to the possibility that you had a good reason at the time.
These actions work whether you’re trying to protect your energy from that crazy person on the street or whether you’re healing the pain you took on from your family as a child. The more you are present, non-resistant, neutral, amused (meaning, have a light-hearted approach) and loving towards yourself, the less and less affected you’ll be by “negative energy”.
I know it can be hard to do all of this when you aren’t feeling like yourself, but trust me, the more you can do it the more you will feel like yourself. Even if you can do just one or two of the things on the list above, it will help, and you’ll be able to do more as time progresses.
Meanwhile a few techniques may help, but remember they are a “band-aids”- they cover up the wound and make life easier, but they do not ultimately do the healing. You can do it though!
If you’re getting stuck and feel there are some deep layers of clearing to do, or if try as you may you cannot find out why you’re allowing certain energy to “stick” to you, let me know if I can assist you with a private reading and healing. You may also like to check out upcoming workshops and meditation CDs.
May you feel and be as clear, grounded, free and radiant as you are!
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