Imagine taking a road trip from LA to New York with no maps, no signs, no GPS. Or think how it might have felt to be a sailor ages ago, leaving civilization and entering the open ocean with no sign of land anywhere. And having to move forward on trust, or by following instinct or nature’s clues.
Our lives can feel like a shot in the dark sometimes– especially when there is something we desire that we haven’t seen yet. You’re only in the moment you’re in, and while spirit can change instantly, physical changes take time.
I remember getting divorced and calling in my new partner and child, my clock ticking and hearing “it won’t be long”. Even with my spiritual guidance and intuitive friends cheering me on, it was still hard to wait. I wouldn’t have wanted to wait those 3 years without any guidance at all. Thank goodness I had it.
Besides feeling sad, angry or uncertain when moving blindly towards a goal and wondering “is it ever going to happen?”– many of us hit the pitfall of changing course too many times. Doing so delays our victory and weakens our energy.
Back to the example of driving from LA to New York…
Let’s say you started driving through the desert– Death Valley, Arizona, New Mexico, etc.– and then thought, “This doesn’t look anything like New York. Where are all the people?” And so you turned around, went back to Las Vegas and found some tall buildings and bright lights and stayed awhile, gambling away all your money.
Or what if you started driving northeast, knowing that was the right direction, but got lost in the Rocky Mountains. You weren’t used to the snow, the windy roads or the abundance of fleece jackets and SUVs. “Is New York really this way?” you think. “Maybe I’ll head south again.”
On the way to our goals, we often encounter the opposite of our goals. This is nature’s way of balancing us and helping us get free.
For example, in order to appreciate relationships, health or money, sometimes we need to know what it’s like to not have them. Or, we vow to become more confident and then suddenly see our doubts and fears all too clearly. Or we decide on success and then find obstacles, but they are all there to strengthen us! And they will if we can recognize them for what they are. If we take them seriously, our lack of perspective– and not the challenges themselves– will take us off our path.
If we’re not sure of our path, it’s easy to waste a lot of time, energy or money chasing what we think it is. For example, if you want to be happy and spend your whole life smiling and trying to look good while avoiding any “negative” feelings, you’ll probably be less happy in the long run than if you admit your fears, doubts and pain. If you desire money and fall for every get rich quick scheme out there, you’ll probably end up with less money than if you found a solid path and stuck with it consistently.
I keep seeing– in my own lives and that of my clients– consistency brings results. If I put something on the calendar for next week, even if next week seems like a long time away, it gets done quicker than something I imagine I’ll do “soon.”
It takes discipline to create consistency for ourselves, but it can be done. On the other hand, none of us are neutral about our own lives, and so we all need an outside perspective sometimes.
Working regularly with a coach, healer or mentor can offer both– consistency and the outside perspective you don’t have for yourself. By putting regular sessions on the calendar, we send a loud and clear message to the Universe— “YES. I’M READY TO CHANGE. I’M WILLING TO BE SUPPORTED. SEND IT!!” And then it starts to come from everywhere.
It’s also great to finally have someone to say, “You’re not crazy, you’re not going the “wrong” way. This is just the Universe preparing and here’s how.” Ahhhh.
So in this way, think of me as a psychic GPS. While we all have free will and I cannot predict what you or anyone else will do, I can see beyond the place you’re at now and help you make sense of it.
I can tell you where you’re headed and if you don’t like where you’re headed, help you change course. And if you’re on track, I’ll make the ride more fun.
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